Old Men. . .

Published on June 28, 2004 By simplethings In Blogging

UGH! Shawn brought his dad home with him from NY... He's a nut case. I mean, the man freaked out because I had dust on my tv. Last night I was talking to Shawn about how frsutrated I was after only a few minutes of his being here. Shawn just laughed at me! I was mad. And so Shawn took my little sister to the mall today and left me here, with my father-in-law. For a 70 year old man, he can sure do a lot of annoying. The man must live to drive me crazy. I now have a greater appreciation for Shawn's mom. I can't believe she was with him for 30 years. You'd think she would have killed him. Shawn said his dad hasn't always been like this. I have a hard time believing him. I'm having a really bad feeling about his dad being here. Shawn said he needed to ask me a question later. And usually when he tells me that he needs to ask me a question before he askes it, it means he needs to think about how to put so not to upset me. Well it's too late honey, I'm already upset!

So right now, I need to stop writing about Shawn's dad before i get in a bad mood for work.

Alysia has been sleeping pretty well lately. She has me feeling pretty bad. Since Shawn got home last night, she only wants him. If i hold her, she cries. If Shawn holds her, she's fine. It's upsetting. So not only am I mad about Shawn's dad, but I'm also going a little crazy here. I'm so overloaded right now. If I clean up a mess, Shawn's dad makes another mess. If I get Alysia to sleep, Paige or Shawn's dad wakes her up, maybe not intentionally, but 9 times out of 10 its one of them. I'm about ready to kick them both out. Shawn isn't being much help. When I get frustrated, he laughs. Usually I'll laugh at myself, but right now, this girl is in no mood to laugh at her cramped life. *sighs* I feel a little better now that that's off my chest.

Emma

Comments

Poetmom99

on Jun 28, 2004

Shawn said he needed to ask me a question later. And usually when he tells me that he needs to ask me a question before he askes it, it means he needs to think about how to put so not to upset me. Well it's too late honey, I'm already upset!

Do you think he's going to bring up the idea of his dad living there? Is that what's upsetting you? I can see both sides of this issue...but I'll keep my thoughts to myself until later, since that might not be it at all....

Don't worry about Alysia's reactions to you and her Daddy....she probably just missed him while he was gone, and wants to make up for that lost time. In a day or two, she'll be back to enjoying Mommy's company!

simplethings

on Jun 28, 2004

Do you think he's going to bring up the idea of his dad living there?

Thats exactly what I think it is. . . yes thats what's upsetting me. He should be home in a few minutes and he is going to come over to meet the kids at work with me and I'm hoping if he's going to ask any thing that he'll do it on the way there...

I can't imagine how she'll be if/when he has to leave for a long time again. . .

Emma

KarmaGirl

on Jun 28, 2004

Make people understand that the baby (and you) need sleep and rest. This is no time for stress. She is too young, and you need to build your strength back up.

70 is not very old. There is no reason that he can't take care of his own messes. Remember, it's your home too. Make sure that you voice your opinion about stuff or people typically won't know what you are thinking.

Parents living with you, even when you get along, is very hard. Privacy becomes a huge issue as does the "roles" of the household. It becomes even harder if you end up footing the bill for the "free rent" space for an annoying in-law

simplethings

on Jun 28, 2004

Yeah... well I just got back from work, and that is wanted he wanted to ask. I told him I needed to think about... I'm not very happy with my sweet husband right now. And he knows it.

Emma

Janders

on Jun 28, 2004

Wow, you sure have a lot on your plate right now. If it becomes an issue of you losing it, dont be afraid to tell Shawn you can't deal with having his dad there right now. Also sit Paige down and explain to her, that you just had Alysia, and your body is healing and newborns need a lot of sleep to be healthy, so when she or you is sleeping It is quiet time in the house. In fact tell everyone that. Everyone SHOULD be walking on egg shells around you and the baby, and taking care of YOU!

Poetmom99

on Jun 29, 2004

Make people understand that the baby (and you) need sleep and rest. This is no time for stress. She is too young, and you need to build your strength back up.70 is not very old. There is no reason that he can't take care of his own messes. Remember, it's your home too. Make sure that you voice your opinion about stuff or people typically won't know what you are thinking.Parents living with you, even when you get along, is very hard. Privacy becomes a huge issue as does the "roles" of the household. It becomes even harder if you end up footing the bill for the "free rent" space for an annoying in-law

Very well said, Karma. All the adults would need to sit down and discuss the idea, and the expectations each of them has of the others. House rules, and all that sort of thing. It wouldn't be an "easy" situation, but if all three are willing to work at it, it could be possible.

simplethings

on Jun 29, 2004

Thanks, I'm planning on telling Shawn today, that if he wants his dad to move in, thats fine with me. As much as I think his dad will drive me crazy, I think it would make Shawn feel better to have his dad around. And who knows, maybe he'll get an apartment or house near-by. . . We can only hope. . .

I did have a talk with Paige this morning...

Emma

Poetmom99

on Jun 29, 2004

I'm planning on telling Shawn today, that if he wants his dad to move in, thats fine with me.

Good luck, and I hope it goes well for everyone!

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