Raise Your Hand If You Got A Whole Night Sleep!

*Raises her hand slightly*

Published on June 24, 2004 By simplethings In Blogging

I fell asleep on the couch last night, while Shawn was trying the Kangaroo-ing thing with Alysia. I slept all night. Shawn slept with Alysia like that, and she woke up a few times but he gave her some formula and changed her diaper and all that wonderful stuff and she went back to sleep. I was depressed of course, considering that I love laying next to Shawn at night and hearing his heart beat. But I was overjoyed to get so much sleep!

We took Alysia to her second to last check-up this week. The doctor said he wanted me to stop nursing her. . . completely.

The upside to that is I can eat what I want now. Although, I'm not hungry and nothing is fulfilling me so I'm just not eating. Shawn is worried that I'm becoming anorexic. I'll eat lunch and maybe make him feel better. I told him I wanted to Kangaroo with him and he just laughed. I hope that the Kangaroo-ing helps Alysia tonight too. I'm a little worried that she'll decide that its not going to work anymore and just start crying again. ugh. . .

Shawn surprised me this morning. He woke me up with a dozen roses and a card. I was shocked that he remembered what today was, but I was very pleased. Every year since this day 6 years ago, he has forgot the importance. It was 6 years today that I met Shawn. I was with my then fiance Tim, and my friend Abby. Abby was waiting for Shawn to come and take her home (Abby was 16 and Shawn was 20, Shawn is also Abby's brother). I hadn't met Shawn before because he'd been away at school. And when he walked into that little restaurant, our eyes met. I knew that what Tim and I had was nothing at that point. But I stuck it out with him for another week. Tim was in California the following week and Shawn and I spent that whole week together. At first we were just watching movies, or hanging out. But it eventually became more, and then Shawn had to go back to school. I was so lonely. I still had Tim, but Tim was more into the serious things, and I liked being with Shawn. He made me smile. And so, I couldn't handle lying to myself and also to Tim, I broke up with him. Shawn was back around June 22 of the following year, but Abby hadn't said anything about it so I didn't know he was home. But on June 24, 1999, We've been like Magnets and Steel since.

I have a quick question, How do I put my favorite blog sites on here? I've been trying to figure that out the past couple a days and i'm completely lost.

Emma

Comments

citahellion

on Jun 24, 2004

Argh. No hand up here, though I did get to stay asleep until almost 3:00 instead of the usual 2:30. (Whee.)

Did the doctor say why you should stop nursing?

To create a sidebar with your favorite sites, click on the "My Account" thingy that should already be on the sidebar, then choose the "Manage Custom Sites List" radio button that's at the bottom of the list at the top right of the headers and click on the "edit" button above the set of buttons. Then the bottom section of your screen will change and how to fill in the URLs and titles should be reasonably obvious.
I would include screenshots if I could, that would make it a whole lot easier to show you what to do.

dharmagrl

on Jun 24, 2004

Don't feel bad that you can't nurse. I tried it with Davey and Shea, got mastitis both times, the last time so bad that I had a 105 degree fever and my doctor told me to quit. With Jake, I was advised to not even attempt it.

I'm glad that that Kangaroo-ing worked for you...I used to sleep with both Shea and Davey like that when they were fussy. Jake was never a really fussy baby, but I still laid like that with him when he was small. I have pictures of Lonesome laying barechested on the couch with Jake....it's so cute!

Please try to eat, honey. It's important, because your body has been through a traumatic event and is trying to repair itself. You need nutrition to do that....

...let me know how it goes!

simplethings

on Jun 24, 2004

Thanks citahellion, I'll have to make sure I put you on my favorites!

Dharma- I'm so glad that Kangaroo-ing worked. Thanks for suggesting it!! I'm going to take pictures of Shawn and Alysia tonight. I promise I'll eat lunch. If it makes everyone happy, I'll eat.

Emma

Janders

on Jun 24, 2004

Did the Dr. Sya why you couldn't nurse. Don't feel bad if you can't, it is good that you are doing what is best for your baby. Eat and sleep whenever you get a chance!

simplethings

on Jun 24, 2004

The doctor didn't really explain much, he just said he thought it'd be best for Alysia if we just used formula. She wasn't eating hardly at all, and he said he was also worried about me.

Emma

citahellion

on Jun 24, 2004

Don't bother putting me on your favorites list, I've only posted one article ever. I'm not much for generating original material, I'm sort of a community floater.

We didn't nurse for terribly long either; Krystal came out HUNGRY and was getting formula within minutes of birth. Add that to the surgical complications and we didn't even get started nursing until the 4th day.

It is unfortunate not to nurse, breastmilk is generally preferred, but certainly the quality of formula has taken some large strides in the last 20 years or so. And you should stick with the kangarooing or some other snuggly activity as a replacement for the quiet bonding time that nursing would ordinarily have given you.

Alysias Daddy

on Jun 24, 2004

Sweetie, I know I should probably just talk to you in person, but, I think you're doing a wonderful job with Alysia, and I'm proud of you. Thanks for writing about me a bit today, I love you. I hope you know that, althougth I don't say it is a much as I should.

Shawn

trina_p

on Jun 24, 2004

I made myself sick with guilt because I couldn't breastfeed - I was begging her to stay asleep so I wouldn't have to do because it hurt so much. I talked to my mum and Nick and the duty nurse and we decided to bottle feed her - Nick got to do the first feed and we took it in turns for weeks after - He loved being able to bond with our baby like that and Elana thrived on formula - she was born 3600grams (7pounds 15) and they're supposed to loose about 10% of their birthweight in the first 3 days and then gain it back - Elana lost about 3% of her birthweight.
6 months later I think she's more then tripled it. She loves to eat - will hold her own bottle and can even recognise the sound of the kettle.
I have no regrets in not breastfeeding - "breast is best" sure - but I know breastfed babies that aren't anywhere near as happy or healthy as Elana Grace.

simplethings

on Jun 24, 2004

Trina, you made me feel so much better, thank you. I was really down about it, but it helps to read things like that.

Emma

Janders

on Jun 25, 2004

Ooohh, Your huband is to sweet!

dharmagrl

on Jun 25, 2004

Sweetie, take Trina's advice. I too beat myself up for not being able to breastfeed, but at the end of the day the only thing that really matters is a happy healthy baby...and if bottle feeding is the way to go, then so be it. Lonesome fed Davey his first bottle, and we used to take it in turns to feed Jake so I at least got a full night's sleep every other night. If she's doing better on formula, then wonderful. Like my doc told me: it's nothing that you did, and it's not your baby....some women just aren't designed to successfully breastfeed. Besides, you gave her a couple of days so she got a lot of anti-bodies passed on from you...and something is better than nothing.

I'm glad to hear that she's doing better, and that you finally ate! I was thinking that I'd have to drive down there and take care of you myself if you didn't start feeding yourself!

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